Trying to Do It All: Balancing Full-Time Work, a Health Condition and Caring for My Parents
There are days where I genuinely wonder how I’m still going.
Not in a dramatic way. Just in that quietly-exhausted, slightly-detached, autopilot mode kind of way.
Because right now, I’m working a full-time job, managing a long-term health condition and caring for two disabled parents who don’t financially qualify for the level of support they actually need.
It’s a lot.
And some days, it feels impossible.
When Caring Changes Everything: How Becoming a Carer Reshaped My Relationships
I didn’t realise how much my relationships would shift when I started becoming more involved in looking after my parents.
If I’m honest, I thought my parents were invincible. I never really pictured how their later years might unfold - not like this, anyway.
But one thing I didn’t expect at all was how caring would affect my friendships and family dynamics.
When you become the main caregiver for your parents, it doesn’t just change your role - it changes your place in the family.
“Just shove them in a home” - Why It’s Not That Simple
“Why don’t you just shove them in a home?”
It usually comes from people who mean well, or think they’re being practical. They see the stress etched on my face, they hear the stories about the ambulance callouts, hospital appointments, lifts and trying to work full time and they think the solution is easy:
Outsource it.
Hand the responsibility to someone else. Put my parents in a care home so I can go back to “having a life.”
I Used To Be An OT - Until I Had To Keep My Parents Alive
I used to be an Occupational Therapist.
I thought I knew how to plan, how to pace and how to care. But when it’s your parents, it’s different. The boundaries blur. You become a daughter, a carer, an admin assistant and a mini health and social care system all rolled into one.
But nothing prepared me for becoming the one who had to keep two people alive.